I wanted to write some words about my lovely friend Joseph, who I was introduced to by the amazing people at Link Age Southwark, a charity that connects older people with befrienders.

I was very lucky to be paired with Joseph as he was an amazing man and we had lots in common. He LOVED music and would listen for hours on end, and being a songwriter myself, it was something we could bond over. He introduced me to many amazing Nigerian artists from the 60’s and 70’s.

Joseph was blind and needed some assistance around the house; I helped him to set up SIRI, so he could listen to his music when he was alone and make phone calls.

Joseph lived in a small flat in Peckham, and a carer would come for an hour in the morning and in the evening; the rest of the day he would be alone. He would sit quietly on his bed, or the sofa, and wait for the next visit. He was extremely good natured, friendly and very trusting of people. He relied on other people to help him, and always showed a lot of gratitude to everyone.

I don’t think I ever saw him in a bad mood - he always found a reason to smile. He didn’t have much money or any material possessions, but was probably the most positive person I’ve ever met. He was always so supportive of me, repeatedly telling me how much he believed in me and that I could achieve anything I wanted. He made me feel very special and valued at a time when I didn’t have much self esteem.

He had a great sense of humour and we always made each other laugh. His smile would brighten up my day. Every time I left his house I would feel good about myself, and over the years my friendship with Joseph helped build my confidence and made me feel like I had more purpose in life.

I saw him for an hour each Sunday for nine years until he died. It wasn’t until his death that I fully realised how much he had taught me. Joseph was a shining example of how to look on the bright side of life, how to stay hopeful and how to be kind. He had developed patience and inner stillness, and being able to witness that first hand had a profound effect on me.

I love you so much Joseph and I think about you every day. I am very grateful to the team at Link Age Southwark for introducing me to such a wonderful person.

Josh 

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